My foray into online dating actually started while I was still in law school. Back then, I spent a lot of time with my two closest friends at the time, Andrew** and Dwayne**. I thought nothing of heading out to local bars, clubs, movie theaters and restaurants with them. I thought nothing of us driving each other's cars if we needed to, having keys to each other's apartments, discussing plans for a dinner and a movie on a Friday night, or having a standing takeout order at my favorite chinese place. I thought, that is what friends do.
Well, it turns out it doesn't matter what I thought. Other folks thought different. Other folks, including but not limited to, our classmates, our professors, our neighbors, some family members, the bartenders and waitstaff at our favorite bar, and probably most importantly (at least for purposes of this blog) all the men that I encountered during those outings, thought I was off the market. Turned out that whereas I saw good friends, carpooling/DDing and just spending time together, other folks saw boyfriend and girlfriend out on a date. Thinking back, I don't think I can blame them. A guy and girl, with no indication of a familial relationship, almost always arriving/leaving together, discussing plans for dinner and a movie on a regular basis or exchanging keys with updates on what the mechanic had to say about your car, could very well be in a relationship. Unfortunately at the time, I was blissfully unaware that I was shooting myself in the proverbial dating foot.
Anywho, since I wasn't meeting "Mr. Right" or "Mr. Right Now" in any of the places I frequented, I decided to try online dating. That didn't last very long. A combination of a lack of interest on my part to actually pursue anything and a lack of time, being that I was in law school at the time, led to one failed 6 month round at Match.com. After that, I got rid of my membership, packed up my profile and put dating on the back burner so I could focus on more important things: passing the bar exam and starting my career. It wasn't until I was admitted and working full-time that I decided to stick my toe back into the dating pool. A year and a half later, at the suggestion of my officemate and the urgings of my friends, this blog was born.
**Names have been changed to protect the innocent.
